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If your partner keeps saying, I'll do better, but nothing really changes, at what point do you stop waiting? That's exactly what we're unpacking today. Because before you make the decision to stay and fight for your relationship or walk away, there are a few things you need to consider. Welcome to the Dom Sub Living Podcast. Today's episode comes from a question someone asked me during a private QA inside one of my programs. I love this question because I know it's something so many people struggle with, but very few people actually talk about out loud. If you've ever felt torn between loving your partner and wondering whether your needs are ever really going to be met, I think you're going to get a lot out of today's answer. Here's the question. So Michaela said, How do you go about when you're wanting more as a submissive, realizing that even though your Dom is acknowledging the inconsistency on his side and wanting to be better, although it's short-lived, but he's just not able to give that much. I do love him and enjoy our dynamic for what it is, but I also need more structure accountability. Is it better to maybe end our dynamic or maybe suggest that I look for disciplinary type, um, a disciplinary type DOM? My first advice would just, you know, I can't say this enough, but like you might want to try going to therapy together, you know, finding a kink-friendly therapist. I know lots of the speakers have, you know, shared um different ways you can find king-friendly therapists. You can always check our resources in the DOM sub training course, but um that's always an option. And just remembering like, why do you want a more disciplinary type of DOM? So, like tackling that first, like what is coming from that desire to have a disciplinary DOM? Um, you know, is it just, you know, for the thrill of it, or it just sounds good, or that's what you hear other subs have, but like really figuring out why do you want that and why do you need that? Because sometimes when we like go to like the actual core of what we want, it doesn't mean we always have to get that from our partner. And also too, like sometimes these same issues will follow us no matter the partner that we have. You know, if we're, you know, constantly wanting more, more and more consistency, more and more disciplinary, we want them harsher, you know, that's probably gonna follow you no matter, you know, which partner you have, because no partner is perfect. So just remembering that too. So just trying to look for how can you provide those things you want in yourself? How can you be more strict with yourself? And but then also approach your partner and just asking them, like, how can you make it easier for them? And communicating how important it is for you, and communicating too that it's getting to the point where you're feeling like it may have to end. Because sometimes a partner, like you said, in your case, they may keep saying, Well, you know, okay, I'll try to be better, I'll try to be better. And then, you know, that lasts a few days, maybe a few weeks. But if they knew it's to the point where you're like, Well, I kind of want to leave now, I'm not getting my needs met, then that may be enough to like show them how serious you are. Um, so definitely communicate in it, you know, whether or not any of us leaves a dynamic, it's you know, it's totally up to you as the individual. But I would say exhaust all your other options, go to, you know, a king-friendly therapist, you know, try to get to the root of why you're wanting these things. That way you don't like carry these issues into other relationships and just really communicate with your partner as much as you can. But I do hope it goes well for you. Okay, so the biggest takeaway I want to leave you with is this. Before you end a relationship, make sure you're solving the right problem. Sometimes the issue is your partner, sometimes it's your expectations. And sometimes it's just that the two of you haven't had the honest conversations or exhausted the options that could still make your dynamic thrive. Whatever you decide, make sure it's a decision you can make from a place of calmness and understanding and not just frustration. I hope this gave you some clarity. And if you're sitting there thinking, okay, but what about my situation? I'd love to help. And inside my all access pass, members get to ask me their questions privately every month, and I personally answer each one one on one. So if you like that kind of personalized guidance for your own dynamic, you can learn more at domsubliving.comslash all access or just click the link in the description. Thanks so much for listening, and until next time, keep embracing your power and pleasure through Dom Subliving.