The Dom Sub Living BDSM and Kink Podcast
Welcome to the Dom Sub Living Podcast, your go-to kinky resource, so you can get out of the vanilla rut, become the best Dominant or submissive you can be, and make BDSM a lifestyle. Explore the many facets of the Dom/sub lifestyle and gain practical insights and tips to enhance your journey.
Your host, Alesandra Madison, is a renowned BDSM educator, empowering individuals and couples to embrace their sensual selves. As the creator of Domsubliving.com, Alesandra promotes sex education, healthy power dynamics, and open communication. With a commitment to inclusivity, she helps kinksters create authentic and fulfilling intimate experiences.
Whether you're seeking guidance, desiring to deepen your understanding of the lifestyle, or simply looking for entertainment and connection, the Dom Sub Living Podcast is your trusted companion. You’ll learn about BDSM, kink, power exchange, Daddy Dom/little girl relationships (DDlg), D/s, sexual wellness, bondage, and more. Each episode features engaging discussions, expert interviews, and heartfelt stories, ensuring a diverse and enriching listening experience you're not going to want to miss. Hit subscribe, and get ready to transform your life and relationship.
Episodes
148 episodes
10 BDSM Rules You Should Probably Break
#148 You've been told these BDSM rules are non-negotiable. But are they? We're challenging 10 of the most common BDSM "rules", revealing which protect you, which are outdated, and which may be holding you back. Press play and challenge everythi...
Free Use & Blanket Consent (Is Your Relationship Ready?)
#147 Free use sounds simple... until you actually try to build it. In this episode, We explain what free use and blanket consent really mean, how they work together, and the signs your relationship is ready for this level of trust. Listen now t...
How to Avoid the Vanilla Rut in Your D/s Relationship
#146 Has your D/s dynamic started feeling a little... vanilla? In this episode, we sharing simple BDSM habits that help you stay consistent, build trust, strengthen your Dom/sub relationship, and avoid the vanilla rut – even when life gets busy...
5 BDSM Experts Share What Everyone Gets Wrong (But No One Says)
#145 What if the biggest mistake in BDSM isn't what you think? Five top BDSM educators reveal the most common mistakes in Dominance, submission, consent, communication, trust, and personal growth. Their answers all point to one surprising truth...
How to Keep Your D/s Dynamic Alive When Life Gets Busy
#144 If your D/s dynamic only exists when life is easy, that might be why it keeps falling apart.What do you do when stress, illness, family obligations, or major life changes push your Dom/sub role to the back burner? In this episode, I...
How to Be More Dominant Without Being a Jerk
#143 Most new Dominants make the same mistake: they water themselves down because they're afraid of becoming the stereotypical Dom everyone rolls their eyes at. In this episode, we're sharing how to step into authority without becoming controll...
The Secret Queer History of Kink Nobody Talks About
#142 Did you know modern kink culture has roots most people never learn about? In this episode, we're exploring the hidden connection between kink, queer history, leather culture, Pride, consent, and radical self-ownership. Discover how BDSM he...
5 Easy Dom/sub Protocols You Can Start Using Today
#141 Want a stronger D/s dynamic without adding complicated rules? Start here. I'm walking you through 5 beginner-friendly protocols straight from my own relationship — what worked, what flopped, and one protocol that sparked a wave of online c...
What Should a Submissive Actually Be Doing in 24/7 D/s?
#140 “Am I supposed to just wait for direction… or take initiative?" If you’re new to a 24/7 D/s dynamic, this episode is for you.We're sharing advice for submissives and Dominants on communication, structure, expectations, proactive ser...
5 Stages of Subspace (And How to Get There Faster)
#139 Most subs think they've experienced subspace. They haven't – not really.In this episode, we're breaking down all 5 stages of subspace and how to get there faster – including the one stage nobody warns you about that can quietly dama...
How to Make Your Kink Life Kinkier
#138 When good becomes boring – that's the real threat to your kink life.Your dynamic works. Your scenes are comfortable. But comfort has a sneaky way of killing intensity. In this episode, you'll learn 7 new ways to level up what's alre...
5 BDSM Mistakes That Keep You Stuck as a Dom or Sub
#137 I ripped up our D/s contract… more than once.If your dynamic feels off, it might not be your partner. It’s often subtle patterns that keep you stuck. In this episode, I break down the hidden mistakes that quietly stall your growth a...
What Is a Pleasure Dom? (And Why Subs Crave Them)
#136 What is a Pleasure Dom – and why do subs say it ruins them for everyone else?We're covering what makes this dynamic so powerful, who it's built for, and six ways it plays out in real D/s relationships – including one most educators ...
8 Ways to Get Better at BDSM
#135 Still stuck at the same level in BDSM?Getting better isn’t about more toys or tricks. It’s about mindset, consistency, and showing up with intention – whether you’re single or in a D/s dynamic. This is what actually creates growth.&...
2 Things Every BDSM Scene Needs (Most People Miss One)
#134 Why do some BDSM scenes feel flat – even when everything looks right?Discover the 2 things that actually make or break a BDSM scene. Learn how Doms and subs can prepare, avoid common mistakes, and create deeper, more connected scene...
Ask the Audience: Submissive Pet Peeves (Sorry, Doms)
#133 What do Dominants do that drives submissives crazy?Real answers from the Dom Sub Living community reveal common D/s mistakes – from lack of follow-through to inconsistency, attention, and leadership gaps. Learn what breaks submissio...
Why Stressed Doms Pull Back (and What to Do About It)
#132 The Dom is stressed – and your dynamic is paying the price. In this episode, we answer a real coaching call question about what to do when the Dom checks out under pressure. Learn how to spot red flags, how the sub can stay grounded in sub...
5 Power Exchange Mistakes That Are Killing Your D/s Dynamic
#131 Are you slowly killing your D/s dynamic without realizing it? In this episode, we break down hidden patterns that weaken connection, trust, and power exchange over time – and why they feel normal while you’re in them. Listen now and take a...
Is It Kink or Is It Abuse? How to Know the Difference
#130 BDSM is not abuse. Consensual non-consent is not rape, and ageplay is not incest. In this powerful episode, we break down consent, red flags, and when power exchange crosses the line. Featuring RAINN. Listen now and share with someone who ...
How to Create D/s Protocols That Work in Real Life
#129 Too many protocols? Not enough? Here's the fix.If your D/s protocols keep failing – or you don't have any – this episode is for you. We break down 50 creative protocol ideas for every dynamic: bedroom-only, long-distance, CG/l, high...
10 Dom/sub Questions to Deepen Your Dynamic Tonight
#128 Most Dom/sub dynamics don’t fail from lack of kink—they fail from lack of communication. Discover 10 powerful questions that deepen D/s, improve scenes, strengthen aftercare, and prevent dynamics from drifting. These questions build trust,...
Why Your D/s Relationship Keeps Failing (Fix This)
#127 If your D/s keeps starting strong… and then quietly falling apart, it’s not because you’re bad at BDSM. There’s a pattern we see over and over in Dom/sub relationships. It has nothing to do with effort, toys, or trying harder. Once you see...
5 Edgeplay Ideas Only Experienced Kinksters Try
#126 Some of you are going to try this anyway. Edgeplay goes beyond safe, sane, and consensual into risk-aware kink – and most kinksters aren’t ready for what that really means. We're ranking five advanced practices by danger level and breaking...
6 Training Ideas to Take Your D/s Beyond the Bedroom
#125 What if your power exchange didn’t end when the scene was over? We're sharing 6 practical training methods to make your D/s dynamic real every day—beyond the bedroom. If you’re craving a consistent and kinky Dom/sub dynamic instead of a ho...
4 Ways to Find a Dom/Sub Partner (That Actually Work)
#124: Struggling to find a real Dom or sub without scammers or fake dynamics? In this episode, we're breaking down the 4 proven ways kinksters are actually meeting healthy partners today – from introducing kink to a current partner to dating sm...