The Dom Sub Living BDSM and Kink Podcast
Welcome to the Dom Sub Living Podcast, your go-to kinky resource, so you can get out of the vanilla rut, become the best Dominant or submissive you can be, and make BDSM a lifestyle. Explore the many facets of the Dom/sub lifestyle and gain practical insights and tips to enhance your journey.
Your host, Alesandra Madison, is a renowned BDSM educator, empowering individuals and couples to embrace their sensual selves. As the creator of Domsubliving.com, Alesandra promotes sex education, healthy power dynamics, and open communication. With a commitment to inclusivity, she helps kinksters create authentic and fulfilling intimate experiences.
Whether you're seeking guidance, desiring to deepen your understanding of the lifestyle, or simply looking for entertainment and connection, the Dom Sub Living Podcast is your trusted companion. You’ll learn about BDSM, kink, power exchange, Daddy Dom/little girl relationships (DDlg), D/s, sexual wellness, bondage, and more. Each episode features engaging discussions, expert interviews, and heartfelt stories, ensuring a diverse and enriching listening experience you're not going to want to miss. Hit subscribe, and get ready to transform your life and relationship.
Episodes
162 episodes
How Kinky Are You? 10 Questions That Reveal Your Kink Level
#162 How kinky are you REALLY? You might be surprised! In this episode, we sharing 10 questions to help you discover your kink level and kink personality type. Are you a Vanilla Newbie, BDSM Connoisseur, BDSM Expert, Kink Chameleon, or somethin...
What Is Monster Kink? (And How to Try It Tonight)
#161 What's so hot about monsters? And why are so many people into monster kink? In this episode, we're exploring what monster kink is, why it appeals to Doms and subs, and how it connects to BDSM and power exchange. Plus, I'm sharing 5 fun way...
4 Dominant Skills Most Doms Overlook (But Subs Notice)
#160 Subs notice things about their Dom's leadership that their Doms don't even realize! In this episode, we're sharing 4 overlooked Dominant skills that can make or break your D/s dynamic. Whether you're a Dom or sub, you'll learn how to build...
Consensual Non-Consent (CNC): BDSM's Darkest Kink?
#159 How can “no” still be consensual? Consensual non-consent (CNC) is one of BDSM’s most misunderstood practices. We’re breaking down what CNC really means, why people want it, how consent and safewords work, and what can happen after a scene....
4 Kinky Challenges for Doms and Subs
#158 Has your D/s dynamic started feeling a little too vanilla? These 4 kinky challenges for Doms and subs can help you shake up your routine, build anticipation, deepen your power exchange, and bring fresh energy back into your BDSM dynamic. A...
Expectations of a Submissive: What You Need to Know (and What You Don’t)
#157 What should a Dom expect from their sub, and what should a sub expect from their Dom? In this guest episode, Luna from Submissive Guide breaks down healthy D/s expectations, BDSM rules and protocols, communication, and red flags to avoid. ...
Weird Things I Do as a 24/7 Submissive for My Dom
#156 What “weird” things does a 24/7 submissive actually do for their Dom? I’m sharing 5 things from my real-life D/s dynamic that even other people in the BDSM lifestyle think go too far. We’ll explore submission, power exchange, and what 24/7...
How We Handle Jealousy in Our D/s Relationship
#155 Can jealousy actually damage your D/s dynamic? Learn how we handle jealousy without letting it wreck trust, roles, or connection. We cover communication, boundaries, insecurity, compersion, and jealousy in polyamory, non-monogamy, and mono...
8 Ways to Make Your Sub Feel More Submissive Every Day
#154 What if making a sub feel more submissive only took 10 seconds? In this episode, discover 8 surprisingly simple ways to deepen submission, strengthen your D/s dynamic, and bring more kinky power exchange into everyday life – without needin...
10 Things Every Good Dom Does Differently
#153 Think being a good Dom means being stricter or more in control? Think again. Discover 10 things great Doms do differently – from how they handle rules and punishment to the surprising way they build trust, obedience, and confidence in thei...
How Far Is Too Far? Exploring BDSM Humiliation Play
#152 How far is too far with BDSM humiliation play? Explore degradation and humiliation kink, from setting boundaries and using safewords to aftercare, communication, and ideas for beginners and advanced players. Learn how to push limits while ...
How to Get Your Partner Interested in BDSM (Without Nagging)
#151 What if your partner isn’t rejecting BDSM, they’re rejecting the pressure? Learn why nagging and hinting backfire, how to talk about kink without topping from the bottom, and how to get your partner more engaged in your D/s dynamic. Listen...
How (not) to Train Your Sub
#150 What if the reason your sub seems "bratty" has nothing to do with them? Learn five common training mistakes that can create resistance instead of trust. Discover how better communication, consistency, and leadership can build a more obedie...
The Hard Truth About Inconsistent Doms
#149 How many times should you believe, 'I'll do better'? Whether you're the Dom struggling to stay consistent or the submissive wondering how much longer to wait, this episode is for you. Learn how to identify the real problem, improve communi...
10 BDSM Rules You Should Probably Break
#148 You've been told these BDSM rules are non-negotiable. But are they? We're challenging 10 of the most common BDSM "rules", revealing which protect you, which are outdated, and which may be holding you back. Press play and challenge everythi...
Free Use & Blanket Consent (Is Your Relationship Ready?)
#147 Free use sounds simple... until you actually try to build it. In this episode, We explain what free use and blanket consent really mean, how they work together, and the signs your relationship is ready for this level of trust. Listen now t...
How to Avoid the Vanilla Rut in Your D/s Relationship
#146 Has your D/s dynamic started feeling a little... vanilla? In this episode, we sharing simple BDSM habits that help you stay consistent, build trust, strengthen your Dom/sub relationship, and avoid the vanilla rut – even when life gets busy...
5 BDSM Experts Share What Everyone Gets Wrong (But No One Says)
#145 What if the biggest mistake in BDSM isn't what you think? Five top BDSM educators reveal the most common mistakes in Dominance, submission, consent, communication, trust, and personal growth. Their answers all point to one surprising truth...
How to Keep Your D/s Dynamic Alive When Life Gets Busy
#144 If your D/s dynamic only exists when life is easy, that might be why it keeps falling apart.What do you do when stress, illness, family obligations, or major life changes push your Dom/sub role to the back burner? In this episode, I...
How to Be More Dominant Without Being a Jerk
#143 Most new Dominants make the same mistake: they water themselves down because they're afraid of becoming the stereotypical Dom everyone rolls their eyes at. In this episode, we're sharing how to step into authority without becoming controll...
The Secret Queer History of Kink Nobody Talks About
#142 Did you know modern kink culture has roots most people never learn about? In this episode, we're exploring the hidden connection between kink, queer history, leather culture, Pride, consent, and radical self-ownership. Discover how BDSM he...
5 Easy Dom/sub Protocols You Can Start Using Today
#141 Want a stronger D/s dynamic without adding complicated rules? Start here. I'm walking you through 5 beginner-friendly protocols straight from my own relationship — what worked, what flopped, and one protocol that sparked a wave of online c...
What Should a Submissive Actually Be Doing in 24/7 D/s?
#140 “Am I supposed to just wait for direction… or take initiative?" If you’re new to a 24/7 D/s dynamic, this episode is for you.We're sharing advice for submissives and Dominants on communication, structure, expectations, proactive ser...
5 Stages of Subspace (And How to Get There Faster)
#139 Most subs think they've experienced subspace. They haven't – not really.In this episode, we're breaking down all 5 stages of subspace and how to get there faster – including the one stage nobody warns you about that can quietly dama...