The Dom Sub Living BDSM and Kink Podcast
Welcome to the Dom Sub Living Podcast, your go-to kinky resource, so you can get out of the vanilla rut, become the best Dominant or submissive you can be, and make BDSM a lifestyle. Explore the many facets of the Dom/sub lifestyle and gain practical insights and tips to enhance your journey.
Your host, Alesandra Madison, is a renowned BDSM educator, empowering individuals and couples to embrace their sensual selves. As the creator of Domsubliving.com, Alesandra promotes sex education, healthy power dynamics, and open communication. With a commitment to inclusivity, she helps kinksters create authentic and fulfilling intimate experiences.
Whether you're seeking guidance, desiring to deepen your understanding of the lifestyle, or simply looking for entertainment and connection, the Dom Sub Living Podcast is your trusted companion. You’ll learn about BDSM, kink, power exchange, Daddy Dom/little girl relationships (DDlg), D/s, sexual wellness, bondage, and more. Each episode features engaging discussions, expert interviews, and heartfelt stories, ensuring a diverse and enriching listening experience you're not going to want to miss. Hit subscribe, and get ready to transform your life and relationship.
Episodes
123 episodes
What Kind of Dom Are You Really? How to Find Your True Style
#123 Daddy, Master, Sadist… why does choosing a Dom style feel so hard?This episode explores how instinct, control, care, and desire shape your true Dominant identity, with a grounded take on finding alignment instead of forcing labels.<...
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Episode 123
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7:26
What Real Dom/Sub Relationships Actually Look Like
#122 “I want a Dom/sub dynamic, but how do I trust?”In this interview, real students David and Dana share how they built a healthy Dom/sub relationship. We talk trust, communication, leadership, safety, and mindset—what actually works be...
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Episode 122
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19:09
My Dungeon Night Debrief: New Year’s Eve at a BDSM Club
#121 What is it really like inside a BDSM dungeon? We're taking you behind the scenes of our New Year’s Eve night in Los Angeles, from safety rules and live, performances to playing on the St. Andrew’s Cross and ending at Denny’s. Listen now an...
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Episode 121
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23:26
How to Get Started With BDSM in 2026
#120 Kink curious but overwhelmed?👉 Take the free kink personality type quiz: https://domsubliving.com/quizYou don’t need extreme play, expensive toys, or a dungeon to start BDSM. In thi...
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Episode 120
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15:30
From Bedroom Kink to Living 24/7 D/s
#119 24/7 D/s isn’t something you jump into overnight. We're breaking down the real phases that take couples from bedroom-only kink into a lived 24/7 power exchange—without rushing, forcing labels, or burning out. If you feel stuck in the middl...
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Episode 119
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32:39
2025 Broke Me… But It Also Built Me
#118 I almost didn’t release this episode—and that’s exactly why I had to. In this raw episode, I'm sharing the good, bad, and ugly of a tough year: surviving long-distance D/s, facing kink community drama, and the hard boundaries I drew to pro...
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Episode 118
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38:25
Kinky vs. Vanilla: Can Your Relationship Survive the Difference?
#117 One of you is kinky, the other... not so much. Is that a deal-breaker—or just a hard conversation you’ve been avoiding? Relationship coach Amanda Dames breaks down how kinky/vanilla couples can talk about desire without shame, translate ne...
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Episode 117
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21:34
Dirty Talk, Punishment, Trust Issues—Let’s Talk D/s
#116 What do you do when real life and D/s collide?👉 Join the free Dom Sub Living Community: https://domsubliving.com/communityToday Jay and Alesandra answer your biggest Dom/sub qu...
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Episode 116
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48:40
Slave Training 101: The One Thing Most Doms Skip
#115 Slave training doesn’t fall apart because the sub fails — it falls apart because the Dom can’t stay consistent. In this episode, Jay shares how our Master/slave training began, why most structures collapse, and the one thing Doms must mast...
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Episode 115
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8:44
Can a Submissive Still Be Feminist?
#114 Can you kneel for your partner and still stand for equality?❤️ Download your free cheat sheet, 'How to Be a Good Sub': https://domsubliving.com/subIn this episode, we're exploring ho...
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Episode 114
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25:43
Bruises, Branding, and the Big Questions Around Marks in BDSM
#113 Why do some scenes leave deep bruises and others nothing at all? In this episode we're unpacking bruises, branding, and marks in BDSM – what they mean emotionally, the science of bruising, how to explain them to vanilla people, and when br...
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Episode 113
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36:05
10 Hidden Power Plays Only Experienced Doms Use
#112 Ever met a Dom who can control a room without saying a word? In this episode, we're revealing the 10 hidden power plays only experienced Dominants use – how silence, attention, and anticipation build real obedience and trust. Learn the qui...
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Episode 112
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25:45
The Biggest Lies You’ve Been Told About BDSM & Kink
#111 What if everything you’ve heard about BDSM and kink is wrong? In this episode, we're busting the biggest Dom/sub myths holding people back—from feeling too inexperienced to thinking BDSM is immoral. Learn the truth about who really belongs...
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Episode 111
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18:55
What No One Admits About BDSM—But We Just Did
#110 BDSM isn’t just fantasy—it’s how real people grow. Alesandra and Deborah Kat get honest about living a D/s lifestyle: consent, safewords, limits, protocols, weekly check-ins, 24/7 dynamics, parenting, money, safety, community—plus the fun,...
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Episode 110
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46:31
My 3 Must-Haves for Every BDSM Scene (True Story)
#109 What makes a BDSM scene truly work? We talk about limits all the time—but rarely about the things we actually need to feel connected, grounded, and fulfilled. In this episode, Alesandra opens up about her real must-haves ...
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Episode 109
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19:38
Spirituality and BDSM: What No One Talks About
#108 Can BDSM be spiritual? In this episode, we're exploring the meditative and transformative side of power exchange — from subspace and Domspace to mindful rituals, breathwork, and spiritual aftercare. Learn how intention and awareness can tu...
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Episode 108
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20:31
How Doms Build Confidence Before and During a Scene
#107 Worried your sub will see right through your nerves? In this coaching call replay, Alesandra and her Dom, Jay, share real-world advice on how Dominants build confidence before and during a scene—through communication, self-awareness, and p...
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Episode 107
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10:26
Chastity and Locktober: Everything You Need to Know
#106 Locktober isn’t just denial—it’s connection, power, and play.🔒 Free Cheat Sheet to level up your submission: https://domsubliving.com/subLearn what Locktober is, its meme roots, how ...
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Episode 106
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19:35
Why I Have a Hard Limit on Electroplay — True Story
#105 People think masochists will try anything… but I’ve got hard limits too. In this episode, I share the story of why electroplay makes me cringe, what happened when my teen mistook a new gadget for a toy, and how true trust in TPE means resp...
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Episode 105
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15:04
Your First Dungeon Night or Munch? What to Expect
#104 What actually happens your first time at a dungeon or munch? Do people really play in front of strangers? Or do you just stand there and watch?” In this episode, we're sharing what to expect, what to wear, how to talk to people, and spot r...
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Episode 104
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18:39
The Real Cost of Waiting to Start Your BDSM Journey
#103 Why is now the best time to start living the BDSM lifestyle? Find out on this episode of Dom Sub Living! We're addressing common excuses for delaying and sharing three factors that make this the ideal moment to start. Discover the potentia...
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Episode 103
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21:27
Inside Our BDSM Contract – What We Really Agreed To
#102 If your idea of a BDSM contract comes from 50 Shades, we need to talk.👉 Grab your free template at https://domsubliving.com/contractIn this episode, I take you inside my real-li...
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Episode 102
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27:39
The Future of Dom Sub Living and What’s Next for You
#101 The podcast is changing! Does that mean less content? Nope. It means more real talk, raw stories, and deeper insights than ever. In this episode, we're sharing why the format is shifting, what’s ahead for the YouTube and audio versions, an...
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Episode 101
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18:18