The Dom Sub Living BDSM and Kink Podcast
Welcome to the Dom Sub Living Podcast, your go-to kinky resource, so you can get out of the vanilla rut, become the best Dominant or submissive you can be, and make BDSM a lifestyle. Explore the many facets of the Dom/sub lifestyle and gain practical insights and tips to enhance your journey.
Your host, Alesandra Madison, is a renowned BDSM educator, empowering individuals and couples to embrace their sensual selves. As the creator of Domsubliving.com, Alesandra promotes sex education, healthy power dynamics, and open communication. With a commitment to inclusivity, she helps kinksters create authentic and fulfilling intimate experiences.
Whether you're seeking guidance, desiring to deepen your understanding of the lifestyle, or simply looking for entertainment and connection, the Dom Sub Living Podcast is your trusted companion. You’ll learn about BDSM, kink, power exchange, Daddy Dom/little girl relationships (DDlg), D/s, sexual wellness, bondage, and more. Each episode features engaging discussions, expert interviews, and heartfelt stories, ensuring a diverse and enriching listening experience you're not going to want to miss. Hit subscribe, and get ready to transform your life and relationship.
Episodes
162 episodes
10 Hidden Power Plays Only Experienced Doms Use
#112 Ever met a Dom who can control a room without saying a word? In this episode, we're revealing the 10 hidden power plays only experienced Dominants use – how silence, attention, and anticipation build real obedience and trust. Learn the qui...
The Biggest Lies You’ve Been Told About BDSM & Kink
#111 What if everything you’ve heard about BDSM and kink is wrong? In this episode, we're busting the biggest Dom/sub myths holding people back—from feeling too inexperienced to thinking BDSM is immoral. Learn the truth about who really belongs...
What No One Admits About BDSM—But We Just Did
#110 BDSM isn’t just fantasy—it’s how real people grow. Alesandra and Deborah Kat get honest about living a D/s lifestyle: consent, safewords, limits, protocols, weekly check-ins, 24/7 dynamics, parenting, money, safety, community—plus the fun,...
My 3 Must-Haves for Every BDSM Scene (True Story)
#109 What makes a BDSM scene truly work? We talk about limits all the time—but rarely about the things we actually need to feel connected, grounded, and fulfilled. In this episode, Alesandra opens up about her real must-haves ...
Spirituality and BDSM: What No One Talks About
#108 Can BDSM be spiritual? In this episode, we're exploring the meditative and transformative side of power exchange — from subspace and Domspace to mindful rituals, breathwork, and spiritual aftercare. Learn how intention and awareness can tu...
How Doms Build Confidence Before and During a Scene
#107 Worried your sub will see right through your nerves? In this coaching call replay, Alesandra and her Dom, Jay, share real-world advice on how Dominants build confidence before and during a scene—through communication, self-awareness, and p...
Chastity and Locktober: Everything You Need to Know
#106 Locktober isn’t just denial—it’s connection, power, and play.🔒 Free Cheat Sheet to level up your submission: https://domsubliving.com/subLearn what Locktober is, its meme roots, how ...
Why I Have a Hard Limit on Electroplay — True Story
#105 People think masochists will try anything… but I’ve got hard limits too. In this episode, I share the story of why electroplay makes me cringe, what happened when my teen mistook a new gadget for a toy, and how true trust in TPE means resp...
Your First Dungeon Night or Munch? What to Expect
#104 What actually happens your first time at a dungeon or munch? Do people really play in front of strangers? Or do you just stand there and watch?” In this episode, we're sharing what to expect, what to wear, how to talk to people, and spot r...
The Real Cost of Waiting to Start Your BDSM Journey
#103 Why is now the best time to start living the BDSM lifestyle? Find out on this episode of Dom Sub Living! We're addressing common excuses for delaying and sharing three factors that make this the ideal moment to start. Discover the potentia...
Inside Our BDSM Contract – What We Really Agreed To
#102 If your idea of a BDSM contract comes from 50 Shades, we need to talk.👉 Grab your free template at https://domsubliving.com/contractIn this episode, I take you inside my real-li...
The Future of Dom Sub Living and What’s Next for You
#101 The podcast is changing! Does that mean less content? Nope. It means more real talk, raw stories, and deeper insights than ever. In this episode, we're sharing why the format is shifting, what’s ahead for the YouTube and audio versions, an...
100 Episodes of Kink: What I Learned the Hard Way
#100 Think kink is simple? After 100 episodes, we're revealing 10 hard-earned lessons that go beyond floggers and fantasy.✅ Subscribe and grab your free BDSM Lifestyle roadmap at https://domsubli...
DDLG 101: The Truth About Being a Babygirl
#099 DDLG isn’t just cute outfits and bedtime routines—it’s a deep, powerful dynamic that blends nurture, structure, and trust.💕 Grab your free DDLG starter list at https://domsubliving.com/ddlg
5 Dom/sub Punishment Ideas I Love (and Hate)
#098 Spankings aren’t cutting it anymore.👉 Grab the free punishment list at
Dom/Sub Secrets No One Talks About (But We Will)
#097 Is kink your secret superpower? In this fun and fearless interview, Alesandra joins actress and comedian Amy Vorpahl to talk BDSM 101, living unapologetically kinky, and what it really means to be a Dom or sub in everyday life. Li...
Every fake dom does this.
#096 If you're a Dom—or trying to be one—don't screw this up.🎯 Take the free quiz: https://domsubliving.com/fakedomWe're revealing the top 5 signs of fake Dominants, from skipping con...
7 Hidden Habits That Keep D/s Relationships Strong
#095 Does your dynamic feel off? If your Dom/sub relationship feels stuck or stale, this episode breaks down the 7 hidden habits that keep real D/s dynamics strong — for years. From rituals and contracts to community and mindset, this is what n...
10 Things Most BDSM Educators Get Completely Wrong
#094 Are BDSM teachers getting it wrong?✅ Join the All Access Pass at https://domsubliving.com/allaccessWe're exposing 10 harmful myths most BDSM educators still teach — from punish...
Not Sure You’re a “Real” Dom or Sub? Listen to This
#093 “Am I too new? Too awkward? Not ‘dominant’ enough?”If you've ever felt like a fake or imposter in BDSM, you’re not alone. We're sharing how to build confidence, stop self-doubt, and finally feel like a “real” Dom or sub — even witho...
How to Explore BDSM WITHOUT a Partner
#092 Think you need a partner to explore BDSM? Think again. Learn how to build skills, rituals, and confidence as a Dom or sub—solo. Avoid beginner mistakes and prep for your ideal dynamic. Ready to start your journey? Join our free Bootcamp!
Is Fifty Shades of Grey Really that Bad?
#091 “I don’t make love—I f*ck. Hard.”📝 Get your free BDSM contract at https://domsubliving.com/contractIs Fifty Shades of Grey really that bad… or are we just mad it opened...
How to Train Your Sub
#090 What if training your sub could feel more like bonding with a dragon than shouting commands?👉 Grab the free “How to Be a Good Dom” Quick Start guide at https://domsubliving.com/dominant